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Friday, February 6, 2015

Never a Failure, Always a Lesson

Ahhh, Such is life...

Life is always full of lessons...

I am learning...constantly...and I am learning.

No matter how old you get, there is always something to learn...there is always something that will either disappoint you, shock you, sadden you, scare you, excite you or simply just amaze you.  

Interactions with people....Relationships with people

For me, this is the area that I am always learning about - 

I've had 'short' friendships, I've seen people come and go.  I think everyone has had their fair share of people coming and going from their learn that people are in your lives for a reason...or if they are no longer in your life, it's for a reason too.  You learn that certain people are in your life for a reason, a chapter, a season, or however long it exists.

For me, I just recently had a 15 year friendship end....well, it ended before I even realized it ended and by the time I realized it, it was after the discovery of a betrayal from someone I had least expected.  Someone that had been through good times and bad times, easy times and hard times, someone that I respected and adored.  That person simply just stopped talking to me and I just assumed that it was because that person was busy,  "we always pick up where we left big deal"....and then after time passed, it started to feel that the person was avoiding me....Why?  

I don't know.

I have an idea that this person was influenced by another person that I used to be friends with but that person was in my life a short 2 years....Somehow that person had influenced my friend of 15 years....I know this because that person of 2 years bashed me online and the person of 15 years went along and supported it and agreed with it.

What a class act.

When I had discovered this - It was just this past weekend.  Andrew was in Chicago. (Not good....My main support system, the one that understands my heart and my soul is thousands of miles away).  My sister was the one that had discovered it and told me immediately because she felt like I needed to know who my 'real friends' were.  Mind you, I didn't think I would need to know a fact like this due to the fact that I'm approaching the age of 30 and people are more mature and don't have issues like this when they are in the later part of their twenties, right?.  

Well, I was wrong.

People will offend you, hurt you, disappoint you or betray you irregardless of how young they are or rather in this case, how old they are.

I talked about it with my best friend, Derek a few days later and what he spoke to me in response about the situation was point on.  I felt relieved being able to talk about what had happened with someone close to me.  I don't have to carry this around.  I don't have to be sad or upset about this.


Because MY response to the entire situation is what truly matters.  

I can either let them win and break my heart and completely ruin my day or my week....or I can smile and say , "thanks for the memories, we had some good times.  How you acted makes me feel sorry for you as a person and I wish you the best of luck." and simply just let it go at that.

I felt FREE.

Life is all about LEARNING experiences....

Learn from it and continue to live your life.

People are not meant to live with bitterness or anger or resentment, we are meant to live with joy, endurance and to grow as an individual and let our light within us shine.  Share what we have learned with others and listen to what others have learned.  Never let anyone bury you or who you are.  I know exactly who I am, my friends and my family and God above know my heart.  I want to be an example to others and even to myself on how to respond to situations.

Always be open to learning.